During our localish travels, we meet so many inspiring people with amazing stories to share. These kind of people make us feel at home, even if it's on the complete opposite side of the world.
We had the pleasure of meeting Jules Allen on the island of Namotu, Fiji. From Australia, Jules is one of the most caring, thoughtful people we've ever come across. As a mother of four, she does it all: charges gnarly surf, competed on Australia's "Master Chef", but most importantly; she's an award winning youth advocate.
During the past 20 years, Jules has worked in several different capacities helping young people and families in crisis. During this time, she came to some very interesting conclusions about the children and young adults she's worked with respect to their resilience. In her Ted Talk, "Gifts in Shitty Wrapping Paper," she suggests that the trendy focus of 'resilience' alone is quite overrated, as there are so many resilient people who still experience significant struggle. Resilience isn't lacking in most individuals; it's acceptance that is lacking. Instead of resilience, we must shift our focus toward acceptance in order to thrive and move past life's struggles.
Accepting our realities and situations can be quite difficult. We're always told to "get over it" or "power through", which is a call to resilience. However, resilience without true acceptance and acknowledgment will only get you so far. Jules references great leaders like Ghandi and Martin Luther King Jr's ability to use acceptance (without spite or anger) in order to progress.
Interest piqued? Watch her Ted Talk here:
Want to learn more about Jules Allen? Head to http://julesallen.org
So, what do you think? How can we be better teachers of coupling resilience with acceptance? We'd love to hear your comments. Thanks for reading and watching.